# Relationship mein mujhe emotionally ignore kiya hua kyun lagta hai?

> Jab partner paas hote hue bhi aapki feelings ko seriously nahi leta, use emotional neglect kehte hain. Kaise pehchanein aur kya karein, jaanein.

- Canonical: https://www.clarityapp.in/blog/hinglish/Why_Do_I_Feel_Emotionally_Neglected_in_My_Relationship/
- Published: 2026-10-31
- Language: hi-Latn  · Category: Relationship
- Publisher: Clarity App (https://www.clarityapp.in), an emotional support app in India. Not an emergency service.
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Relationship mein emotional neglect ka matlab hai ki aapka partner physically toh saath hai, par emotionally wahan nahi hai. Woh na poochta hai ki din kaisa gaya, na notice karta hai jab kuch theek nahi lag raha, aur jab aap feelings ke baare mein baat karne ki koshish karte ho toh topic change kar deta hai. Ye koi ek bada incident nahi hota. Ye dheere dheere attention na milne ki wo kami hai jo andar hi andar thaka deti hai.

## Ye roz ki zindagi mein kaisa dikhta hai

Kuch patterns baar baar dikhte hain:

- Aap kuch important share karte ho aur jawab mein sirf ek word milta hai.
- Aap cheezein batana band kar dete ho kyunki aapko pehle se pata hai ki koi real reaction nahi aayega.
- Aapko ek friend se, ya kabhi kabhi online kisi stranger se, apne partner se zyada samjha hua mehsoos hota hai.
- Koi mushkil din guzarta hai, family se jhagda hota hai, kaam mein setback aata hai, aur partner ek baar bhi check-in nahi karta.
- Relationship ka zyada emotional kaam aap akele karte ho: baatein yaad rakhna, conversation start karna, jhagde ke baad maahaul theek karna.

Ek busy hafta jisme partner distracted rahe, bilkul normal hai. Par agar ye pattern mahino se chal raha hai aur baar baar repeat ho raha hai, toh ye neglect hai, koi phase nahi.

Kisi ke saath rehte hue bhi akela feel karna, ek real tarah ka loneliness hai. WHO ki 2025 wali global report, jo logo ke aapas ke connection par hai, batati hai ki duniya bhar mein har chhe mein se lagbhag ek insaan akelapan feel karta hai, aur jo log akela mehsoos karte hain unme gehri udaasi mehsoos karne ka chance lagbhag double hota hai ([WHO, 2025](https://www.who.int/news/item/30-06-2025-social-connection-linked-to-improved-heath-and-reduced-risk-of-early-death)). Ye bhari feeling sirf khaali ghar mein nahi hoti. Ye tab bhi saath reh sakti hai jab partner agle room mein TV dekh raha ho, aur shayad isiliye [Jab aap apni feelings express nahi karte aur mann hi mann kudhte rehte hain toh kya hota hai](https://web.debug.clarityapp.in/blog/What_Happens_When_You_Do_Not_Express_Your_Feelings_And_Keep_Sulking/) aise logo ke liye ek bahut common agla step ban jaata hai.

## Aisa hota kyun hai

Zyadatar emotional neglect jaan-bujhkar nahi hota. Common reasons ye hain:

- Partner aise ghar mein bada hua ho jahan feelings ke baare mein kabhi baat hi nahi hoti thi, toh usse sach mein nahi pata ki dhyan se sunna kaisa hota hai.
- Kahin aur ka stress, kaam, paisa, family ka pressure, jiski wajah se kisi ke bhi feelings ke liye jagah nahi bachti, unki apni feelings ke liye bhi nahi.
- Conflict avoid karna: kuch log ye poochne ki jagah ki kya galat hai, chup ho jaate hain, kyunki poochne se shayad aisi conversation khul jaaye jiske liye woh ready nahi hain.
- Dheere dheere dono partners ek dusre ke liye actively present rehna band kar dete hain aur koi bhi ise khulke bolta nahi.

Reason pata hone se dard kam nahi hota. Par isse ye decide hota hai ki aap kya maangein, kyunki skill ki kami aur seedhi indifference, dono ke liye alag conversation chahiye.

## Aap iske baare mein kya kar sakte ho

1. Ise specifically naam do, general tareeke se nahi. "Tumhe kabhi farak hi nahi padta" kehne ki jagah, "jab main tumhe apne din ke baare mein bata raha tha/rahi thi aur tum phone chalate rahe, tab mujhe laga meri baat suni hi nahi gayi" bolo. Koi specific moment batana, ek bade ilzaam se zyada aasan hota hai partner ke liye respond karna.
2. Poori personality change karne ko mat kaho, ek chhota, clear change maango. "Jab main ghar aaun toh pehle das minute phone side mein rakh sakte ho kya" - ye ho sakta hai. "Thoda aur emotionally present raho" - ye kal se koi bhi follow nahi kar sakta.
3. Agle do hafto mein response dekho, uss waqt kiye gaye promise par nahi. Jo partner change karne ko ready hai, woh usually baat uthane ke turant baad koi koshish karta hai, chahe woh perfect na ho.
4. Dhyan dene ka koi chhota sa ritual phir se shuru karo. Raat ko sone se pehle das minute, phone door rakhke, ek dusre ka haal poochna, saal mein ek baar hone wali kisi lambi, serious conversation se zyada farak daal sakta hai. Agar samajh nahi aa raha shuruaat kahan se karein, toh [Apni emotional zarooraton ka khayal rakhne ke 5 tareeke](https://web.debug.clarityapp.in/blog/5_Ways_To_Take_Care_Of_Your_Emotional_Needs/) mein aur ideas milenge, khud ke liye bhi aur relationship ke liye bhi.
5. Apni limit pehle se decide kar lo. Agar aapne clearly ek se zyada baar baat ki hai aur kuch nahi badla, toh ye relationship ke baare mein ek jaankari hai, agli baar aur zyada zor se bolne ki wajah nahi.

## Kisi se baat kab karein

Jo friend aap dono ko jaanta hai, woh vent karne aur perspective ke liye kaam aa sakta hai, par ho sakta hai woh kisi ek ka side lene lage, jisse unki advice utni objective na rahe. Agar aap bina iss tension ke apni feelings ko process karna chahte ho, toh [Mujhe aisa kyun lagta hai ki mera partner meri baat nahi sunta?](https://web.debug.clarityapp.in/blog/Why_do_I_feel_like_my_spouse_doesnt_listen_to_me/) ek closely related situation cover karta hai, ise bhi saath mein padhna worth hai.

Agar raat der ho gayi hai aur aapka aisa hi koi evening raha, aapne kuch dil ki baat kahi aur jawab mein sirf shrug mila, toh [Clarity app](https://web.debug.clarityapp.in/how-it-works/) par ek listener, jo ek real, trained insaan hai, usi waqt chat ya call par aapse baat kar sakta hai, privately, bina apni poori relationship history pehle batae. Agar ye neglect mahino se chal raha hai, agar aapne directly baat ki hai aur kuch nahi badla, ya agar iska asar aapki neend, bhook ya kaam par focus karne ki ability par pad raha hai, toh yahi waqt hai jab ek licensed counsellor se baat karni chahiye, Clarity par ya kahin aur, kyunki lagatar ya gehri taklif mein professional support lena hamesha sahi hota hai, chahe relationship mein baaki sab kuch upar se theek hi kyun na dikhe.

## FAQ

**Kya emotional neglect bhi ek tarah ka abuse hai?**

Emotional neglect, abuse jaisi baat nahi hai, halaanki agar ye bahut severe ya jaan-bujhkar kiya jaaye, toh ye emotional abuse se overlap kar sakta hai. Zyadatar cases mein ye control karne ki niyat se nahi balki carelessness ya skill ki kami se hota hai, par agar aapko sirf unheard nahi balki dara hua ya controlled feel hota hai, toh ye alag pattern hai aur iske baare mein kisi professional se baat karna sahi rahega.

**Kya relationship emotional neglect ke baad wapas theek ho sakta hai?**

Haan, bahut se relationships theek ho jaate hain, khaaskar jab neglect feel karne wala partner ise clearly bataye aur doosra partner dhyan dene aur kuch specific habits change karne ko ready ho. Theek hone ke liye usually dono logo ko maanna padta hai ki ye ek real problem hai jis par kaam karna zaroori hai.

**Bina fight kiye partner ko kaise batau ki mujhe neglected feel hota hai?**

Jhagde ke beech mein nahi, balki koi calm moment chuno, aur ek general ilzaam lagane ki jagah koi ek specific incident batao ki usse kaisa laga. 'Jab main baat kar raha tha/rahi thi aur tum phone chalate rahe toh mujhe laga meri baat suni hi nahi gayi' - ye 'tum kabhi sunte hi nahi' kehne se kahin better kaam karta hai.

**Kya ye normal hai ki friends mujhe partner se zyada samajhte hain?**

Aisa hota hai, khaaskar jab relationship ek routine mein set ho jaata hai, par agar ye consistently ho raha hai aur aapko partner se koi bhi real baat karne mein dar lagne lage, toh ise ignore karne ki jagah ek pattern ki tarah dekhna zaroori hai.

**Agar mere partner ko lagta hi nahi ki koi problem hai toh kya karein?**

Ye common hai aur frustrating bhi. Partner ke nature par baat karne ki jagah specific moments describe karne ki koshish karo, aur agar perception ka ye gap continue rehta hai, toh ek counsellor dono ki baat ko bina blame kiye samajhne mein madad kar sakta hai.