# Parents ko mera partner pasand nahi, ab mere paas actually kya options hain? > Teen hi raaste hain: parents ko manate raho, unki marzi ke bina aage badho, ya rishta khatam karo. Khud ko khoye bina yeh decide kaise karein. - Canonical: https://www.clarityapp.in/blog/hinglish/My_parents_dont_approve_of_my_partner__what_are_my_actual_options/ - Published: 2026-11-15 - Language: hi-Latn · Category: Relationship - Publisher: Clarity App (https://www.clarityapp.in), an emotional support app in India. Not an emergency service. - Other languages: - English: https://www.clarityapp.in/blog/My_parents_dont_approve_of_my_partner__what_are_my_actual_options/ - हिंदी: https://www.clarityapp.in/blog/hi/My_parents_dont_approve_of_my_partner__what_are_my_actual_options/ Jab parents ko aapka partner pasand nahi aata, toh actually aapke paas sirf teen raaste hote hain — unhe manate rehna, unki marzi ke bina rishte mein aage badhna, ya rishta khatam kar dena. Inme se kaunsa raasta aapke liye sahi hai, yeh is baat pe depend karta hai ki parents se lambe time tak rishta banaye rakhna aapke liye kitna matter karta hai, is fight ke liye aapke paas kitna time aur himmat bachi hai, aur kya unki objections partner ki kisi aisi baat ki taraf ishara kar rahi hain jispe dobara sochna genuinely zaroori hai. ## Teen options, seedha-seedha **Parents ko manate rehna.** Iska matlab hai ek badi bahas ki jagah baar baar, shaanti se baatcheet karna, aur isme aksar din nahi, mahine lag jaate hain. Yeh tab sabse zyada kaam karta hai jab unki objection unfamiliarity, caste, community, ya "log kya kahenge" jaisi baaton se judi ho, na ki partner ke character ki kisi concrete baat se. **Unki marzi ke bina aage badhna.** Kuch couples bina family ki approval ke shaadi kar lete hain ya saath rehte hain, is ummeed mein ki time ke saath cheezein soft ho jaayengi. India mein yeh ek real aur common choice hai, koi reckless decision nahi, lekin iske saath usually kuch waqt ki real coldness, family functions miss hona, aur parents ke alawa apna khud ka support system banana shaamil hota hai. **Rishta khatam karna.** Kabhi kabhi khud se honest hone ke baad aapko lagta hai ki yeh rishta itna weight carry karne layak strong nahi hai, ya parents ki concerns kisi real baat ki taraf ishara kar rahi thi. Soch samajh kar rishta khatam karna, sirf fighting se thak kar khatam karne se alag baat hai. Inme se koi bhi "sahi" wala option nahi hai. Har ek ki apni real cost hai, aur asli kaam yeh figure out karna hai ki kaunsi cost aap genuinely jee sakte ho. ## Yeh itna hard kyun feel hota hai Bahut si Indian families mein bacche ka partner choice private decision nahi maana jaata, isse poori family ka statement samjha jaata hai, isliye otherwise reasonable lagne wale parents bhi kabhi kabhi itni strongly react karte hain. Isse yeh pressure fair nahi ho jaata, lekin ise samajhne se yeh baat thodi kam personal lagti hai. Objection ko uthane wale insaan se objection ko alag karke dekhna bhi help karta hai — jo parent relatives ki opinion se dar raha hai, woh us parent se alag jagah pe hai jisne partner se milkar koi real red flag dekha ho. Agar sabse zyada chubhne waali baat yeh hai ki parents ko shaayad ehsaas hi nahi ki yeh rishta aapke liye kitna matter karta hai, toh yeh ek jaani-pehchaani, alag problem hai — [parents aur unke bade ho chuke bacche aksar aisi feelings pe ek doosre ki baat kyun nahi samajh paate](https://www.clarityapp.in/blog/Why_Dont_My_Parents_Understand_My_Feeling/), yeh ise saath padhne layak hai. ## Parents se actually baat kaise karein 1. **Calm moment choose karo, reaction mein mat bolo.** Baat tab uthao jab koi beech ladai mein na ho. Ladai ke beech ki rushed conversation, planned conversation se almost hamesha zyada bigadti hai. 2. **Pehle defend karne ki jagah pucho ki unhe exactly kis baat ki tension hai.** Aksar asli worry (community, paisa, "log kya kahenge") woh nahi hoti jo woh sabse pehle bolte hain. 3. **Partner ko dheere dheere picture mein lao**, chhoti, low-pressure mulaqaaton ke through, ek hi bade, high-stakes meeting ki jagah. 4. **Rishte ko rebellion se alag rakho.** Agar har conversation "tumhe mujh par bharosa hi nahi hai" pe aake khatam hoti hai, toh baat partner ki nahi rehti, [parents overall aap pe kitna bharosa karte hain](https://www.clarityapp.in/blog/Why_Dont_My_Parents_Trust_Me/), uspe aa jaati hai, jispe alag se baat karni chahiye. 5. **Apne mann mein ek real deadline rakho** — parents pe pressure daalne ke liye nahi, balki isliye taaki aap saalon tak bina dobara socha, limbo mein phase na rahein. ## Kisse baat karein Ek dost jo aapko aur aapki family dono ko jaanta hai, reality check ke liye useful ho sakta hai, lekin unki apni opinion bhi hoti hai partner ko leke, jo unki advice ko cloud kar sakti hai. Ek listener jo aapki family ko bilkul nahi jaanta, exactly isi wajah se zyada useful hota hai kyunki uska koi side nahi hota. Aur agar guilt, ghabrahat ya conflict hafton tak aapki neend, kaam, ya khud ke baare mein feeling ko affect kar raha hai, toh counsellor se baat karna consider karna chahiye — last resort ki tarah nahi, balki ek aise insaan ki tarah jo pressure mein clearly sochne mein aapki help ke liye trained hai. Agar aap aaj raat wali is conversation ki apni waali kahani kisi ko batana chahte ho, ya decide karne se pehle bas vent karna chahte ho, toh [Clarity app](https://www.clarityapp.in/how-it-works/) aapko chat, call ya video pe ek real, trained listener se connect karta hai, woh bhi privately aur bina pehle apni poori family history explain kiye. Agar yeh mahino se chal raha hai aur aapko thaka raha hai, toh Clarity ke counsellors longer, structured conversations ke liye bhi available hain. Aapko yeh aaj raat hi solve karna zaroori nahi hai. Bas itna maan lo ki yeh actually teen alag decisions hain, aur yeh decide karna start karo ki inme se kiske saath aap jee sakte ho. ## FAQ **Kya mujhe parents ki marzi ke bina apne partner se shaadi kar leni chahiye?** Iska koi ek sahi jawab nahi hai. Yeh is baat pe depend karta hai ki parents se lambe time tak closeness aapke liye kitni matter karti hai, partner genuinely aapke liye kitna sahi hai, aur aap kisi bhi decision ke consequences ke saath jee paoge ya nahi — isliye ise gusse mein nahi, aaram se soch kar decide karo. **Parents ko convince karne ki koshish kab tak karni chahiye, kab give up karna chahiye?** Koi fixed timeline nahi hai, lekin agar mahino tak shaanti se baar baar baat karne ke baad bhi kuch nahi badla aur rishte mein tension hi badhta ja raha hai, toh yeh maan lena theek hai ki convince karna hi sirf ek option nahi hai, aur baaki do options pe bhi sochna chahiye. **Agar parents contact todne ki threat dein toh?** Is threat ko halke mein mat lo, yeh dikhata hai ki woh kitni takleef mein hain, lekin sirf isi baat pe apna decision mat tikao, kyunki bahut si families gusse mein yeh keh toh deti hain, par gussa utarne ke baad contact mein wapas aa jaati hain. **Parents ki marzi ke against jaakar partner choose karne pe guilty feel karna normal hai?** Haan, is situation mein guilt feel hona bahut common hai, especially un families mein jahan bacche ke decisions ko poori family ki izzat se jod kar dekha jaata hai. Guilt feel karne ka matlab yeh nahi ki aapka decision galat hai. **Jab problem khud mere parents hain, toh counsellor se baat karke sach mein fayda ho sakta hai?** Haan, ek counsellor aapke parents ko nahi badal sakta, lekin woh aapko yeh clearly samajhne mein help kar sakta hai ki aap actually kya chahte ho, guilt aur ghabrahat ko handle karne mein help karta hai, aur aane waali conversations ke liye prepare karta hai.