Why Don't My Parents Understand My Feeling?
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You and your parents are from different generations, so, have clarity that there are cultural differences between you. You may want other things from yourself than your parents want from you. If you're going to accept that your parents don't understand you, try to empathize with them. Once you know where they are coming from, you are more likely to take the differences. From there, we work to resolve the conflicts that arise from these differences. Explaining your views to your parents may make you feel better, but you know that you often have to agree when you disagree. Finally, don't let your parents' approval completely control your self-esteem. It's okay to feel good and positive, even if your parents don't fully understand who you are.
❖ Empathy for parents
EVALUATE YOUR PARENTS' POINT OF VIEW.
You may feel unfair or indifferent if your parents don't understand you. This is not necessarily the case. Differences often arise from generational differences. Your parents may have reasons for not understanding you or your point of view. Your parents may have grown up in a culture with different beliefs. For example, your father's father may have been rigorous. Your father may be feeling pressure from him to be a "good parent." A parent's lack of understanding can also be caused by external factors that do not concern them. If your mom doesn't have time to ask about social issues you're having at school, think about what she's going through. Is your mother busy? Is she stressed at her job, or is she having problems with her family? External factors can interfere with your mother's ability to understand you. There is nature.
BE CAREFUL WITH YOUR EMOTIONS.
As you listen, pay attention to your parent's feeling. Understanding how your parents feel and why they feel that way can reveal why they don't understand you. The more we learn, the more we can accept our lack of understanding. Imagine how your parents felt when they told you what they went through. For example, let's say your mother tells you that your childhood friend did something terrible and dropped out of high school. Imagine how that makes you feel. Maybe she's afraid the same thing will happen to you.
Ask her questions so that she understands how her parents feel. For example: How did you feel when you lost contact with Shannon? You must have been frightened. Do you have any regrets?"
Try to understand how these emotions influence your behavior. Maybe your mother is harsh on you because of her bad experience with Shannon. The desire to protect you may hinder your understanding of your need for freedom and autonomy.
❖ Self-acceptance despite denial
BE PROUD OF YOUR STRENGTHS.
You shouldn't rely solely on your parents' approval, especially if they don't understand you. Learn to take pride in your unique strengths and abilities, even if your muscles don't necessarily, please your parents.
Make a list of your strengths. This helps validate your talents and social skills. Include talents and skills and personality strengths such as "I'm a nice person" and "I'm funny". Example: "I am very good at math." Your parents may not understand all your strengths. If your parents don't understand you, they may not understand why your interests and passions are your strengths. It's essential to believe it yourself.
SEEKING HELP IN ABUSIVE SITUATIONS. WHEN PARENTAL MISUNDERSTANDINGS CROSS THE LINE AND LEAD TO ABUSE, IT'S IMPORTANT TO SEEK OUTSIDE HELP. YOU MUST BE ABLE TO LOVE AND ACCEPT YOURSELF. TALK TO ANOTHER ADULT, SUCH AS ANOTHER RELATIVE OR FRIEND'S PARENT. YOU CAN ALSO TALK TO SOMEONE AT SCHOOL. WITH A SCHOOL COUNSELOR. YOU AND YOUR PARENTS MAY NEED TO SEE A THERAPIST TOGETHER. YOUR PARENTS MUST LEARN TO RECOGNIZE NEGATIVE HABITS AND TREAT YOU BETTER AS A PERSON.
Count on Clarity App’s listeners to give you the help you need to get through the tough times.
Why Don't My Parents Understand My Feeling?
Relationship
You and your parents are from different generations, so, have clarity that there are cultural differences between you. You may want other things from yourself than your parents want from you. If you're going to accept that your parents don't understand you, try to empathize with them. Once you know where they are coming from, you are more likely to take the differences. From there, we work to resolve the conflicts that arise from these differences. Explaining your views to your parents may make you feel better, but you know that you often have to agree when you disagree. Finally, don't let your parents' approval completely control your self-esteem. It's okay to feel good and positive, even if your parents don't fully understand who you are.
❖ Empathy for parents
EVALUATE YOUR PARENTS' POINT OF VIEW.
You may feel unfair or indifferent if your parents don't understand you. This is not necessarily the case. Differences often arise from generational differences. Your parents may have reasons for not understanding you or your point of view. Your parents may have grown up in a culture with different beliefs. For example, your father's father may have been rigorous. Your father may be feeling pressure from him to be a "good parent." A parent's lack of understanding can also be caused by external factors that do not concern them. If your mom doesn't have time to ask about social issues you're having at school, think about what she's going through. Is your mother busy? Is she stressed at her job, or is she having problems with her family? External factors can interfere with your mother's ability to understand you. There is nature.
BE CAREFUL WITH YOUR EMOTIONS.
As you listen, pay attention to your parent's feeling. Understanding how your parents feel and why they feel that way can reveal why they don't understand you. The more we learn, the more we can accept our lack of understanding. Imagine how your parents felt when they told you what they went through. For example, let's say your mother tells you that your childhood friend did something terrible and dropped out of high school. Imagine how that makes you feel. Maybe she's afraid the same thing will happen to you.
Ask her questions so that she understands how her parents feel. For example: How did you feel when you lost contact with Shannon? You must have been frightened. Do you have any regrets?"
Try to understand how these emotions influence your behavior. Maybe your mother is harsh on you because of her bad experience with Shannon. The desire to protect you may hinder your understanding of your need for freedom and autonomy.
❖ Self-acceptance despite denial
BE PROUD OF YOUR STRENGTHS.
You shouldn't rely solely on your parents' approval, especially if they don't understand you. Learn to take pride in your unique strengths and abilities, even if your muscles don't necessarily, please your parents.
Make a list of your strengths. This helps validate your talents and social skills. Include talents and skills and personality strengths such as "I'm a nice person" and "I'm funny". Example: "I am very good at math." Your parents may not understand all your strengths. If your parents don't understand you, they may not understand why your interests and passions are your strengths. It's essential to believe it yourself.
SEEKING HELP IN ABUSIVE SITUATIONS. WHEN PARENTAL MISUNDERSTANDINGS CROSS THE LINE AND LEAD TO ABUSE, IT'S IMPORTANT TO SEEK OUTSIDE HELP. YOU MUST BE ABLE TO LOVE AND ACCEPT YOURSELF. TALK TO ANOTHER ADULT, SUCH AS ANOTHER RELATIVE OR FRIEND'S PARENT. YOU CAN ALSO TALK TO SOMEONE AT SCHOOL. WITH A SCHOOL COUNSELOR. YOU AND YOUR PARENTS MAY NEED TO SEE A THERAPIST TOGETHER. YOUR PARENTS MUST LEARN TO RECOGNIZE NEGATIVE HABITS AND TREAT YOU BETTER AS A PERSON.
Count on Clarity App’s listeners to give you the help you need to get through the tough times.
